Thank you friends!

Hello everyone!

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I have been reflecting a lot about things that are important in life: Health… family… finding a purpose... freedom… love… excitement… adventure… self-development…

So, I wanted to thank my team!

I think surrounding yourself with good colleagues at work is as important as other things on the list. We spend so much time at work. Our identity comes from work. Our best friends are made at work. I've always believed that the people you work with are what makes the job worthwhile, and you all proved me right.

One of the very rewarding aspects of building my private practice has been the interaction with a superb group of colleagues and friends. I'm proud to be working with all of you. I am lucky to work in an office with such caring, open-minded, funny, hard-working, and intelligent people. You are excellent clinicians and I never need to worry about the quality of work you do with our clients. Thanks for having my back.

Our last outing was to the Fox in the Box Escape Room. We got dressed as prisoners and had to break out of our cells and the prison. We were unstoppable! Andy aimed like a sniper. Darley was the perfect combination of muscle and brain. Yvonne connected the dots, opening the hidden door. Taren picked locks like she did it for a living. Lori was a master code breaker. We solved it like we were experts. I guess we are. Every day we do our best to help our clients in solving their problems, assisting them in navigating life’s hardships, and working to break free … from their own negative self-talk and self-judgment, from bad relationships, and from their own self-inflicted prison. Thanks for the incredible memories.

I'm grateful you're in my life.

Asta

Prisoners From left to right: Andy - “snake bite,” darley - “scar,” yvonne - “cuban,” taren - “chimichanga,” asta - “Princess,” and Lori - “spike!”

Prisoners From left to right: Andy - “snake bite,” darley - “scar,” yvonne - “cuban,” taren - “chimichanga,” asta - “Princess,” and Lori - “spike!”

Healing

Healing doesn’t mean that damage never existed. It means that the damage no longer controls our lives. You might have struggled with depression, or you may have been in an unhealthy relationship, or you might have experienced abuse or neglect. We need to attend to those experiences, process them, and find a way for us to move forward, so we can have healthy lives. We cannot change what has happened to us or the symptoms we have experienced, but we can decide not to be diminished by our past negative experiences. We need to be selfish and think about how we can help ourselves feel better every day. Take that first step in the healing process. For some, it might be a trip to Mexico. For others, it might be a trip to see a counselor. Or end a relationship. Or start a new job. Or exercise. Whatever it is, you need to take that first step and continue to take steps every day.          

I also found this daily mantra very useful (author unknown):

This morning I woke up and reminded myself that

My soul is beautiful,

My mind is powerful,

My heart is made of gold,

And I’ve got so many damn good things going for me that I literally do not need anyone who isn’t going to treat me the way I deserve to be treated.

Homework: Try to challenge yourself to do something you were afraid of or uncomfortable doing. For example, go to Starbucks and sit there alone without the phone for 10 minutes, just drinking coffee. Text a friend you have been wanting to contact. Register for a class you wanted to take. Go on a date. Run. Tell negative people you don’t have time for them. Don’t answer to an insult. Take a bus and watch people. Go to the museum. Try a new restaurant. Take that first step!

Asta

Tulum, mexico

Tulum, mexico

Hello everyone!

Tulum, mexico

Tulum, mexico

I recently had a cancer scare and decided to start a blog because I realized that I needed to share more, before it is too late. I have so much to say, but for many reasons I held back. Often, I found myself not having enough time during my weekly sessions to discuss certain things, so maybe this will be a good way to share with you the things I find important, amusing, challenging, and useful to know.

Some of you know me very well, as we shared many precious hours together. Some of you don’t know me at all. You can read more about my professional achievements in the section “About Us.”

On a personal level, I want to share that I really struggled with postpartum depression after Emma was born. It was bad, really bad. I tried meds, therapy, baths, YouTube Wisdom, and nothing seemed to work—until one day I listened to Matthew Hussey talk about the idea of finding meaning in your life. As a therapist, I thought I was doing enough. I help people. I make them see the light at the end of the tunnel. I inspire. I kick ass—literally (I am into boxing) and figuratively. I help people make changes. I wear the white hat, sometimes the black one too. Often, I have saved people’s marriages—or their lives. I thought that was the meaning in my life, until I started thinking more about it. What was my meaning? I didn’t have an answer. But I knew that my depression was getting worse and I had to do something. So I went on a trip. Alone. To Mexico. I promised myself that I would do things to challenge myself and make myself feel uncomfortable. Some of you know that I am a planner. A really good planner. I usually plan an hourly itinerary of my trips. Shit is planned and booked. This time, I bought a ticket and booked a tent. Actually, it was a yurt. On a beach. And off I went.

In future posts I will share with you the lessons I learned. For now, I need you to do some homework. I want you to think about ways you can challenge yourself. No need to act, just think about it and write it down.

Talk to you soon.

Asta